Saturday, June 5, 2021

Man Cave

 Do you have a man-cave?  Somewhere you retreat to, to be alone, away from the world.

In my family, there's 8 of us living under the same roof.  That's 3 nuclear families making up one big extended family.  Well, not so big actually.  just 8.  But that's still a lot.  And sometimes, it can get too much.  Too noisy, too chaotic, too hot (literally - because not all the areas has aircond).

But in this chaos, I am thankful that each nuclear family is blessed with our own room, with our own air-conditioning to boot.  I always remind the kiddo that even though he doesn't have his own room, he must be thankful for the fact that we DO have our own room, and a clean room that's so comfortable with our own comfy bed, good thick mattresses and pillows and most importantly, a nice cool air-cond.  And that my friend, is MY mancave.

Sometimes, I just retreat there after a whole day of work and when I do not have the energy to talk to anyone, including the kids, especially the youngest that needs help with her homework.  I just turn off and can be on my social media for hours.  Sometimes, I'd be on Netflix, but not that much, I somehow do not have the addiction to Netflix.  But when I'm hooked on a series, that's the end of the story.

We don't normally allow our kids to hide in their man-cave, a.k.a the room.  So they will almost always hang at the "study room", gaming (a.k.a shouting at online friends) or watching their movies etc. (rarely "studying").  And recently, I learn a new word from Noel - "mental man-cave".  Because the boys aren't allowed to cave in their room, they obey and will retreat to their "mental man-cave" even in the presence of chaos around them.

And that, I think is a very important skill I need to learn.  When things aren't going too well, when my emotions are hay-wired, when all I want to do is bolt... but I still need to function as a human being, I still need to cook and clean and be a mother / daughter, I need to learn to retreat to my mental man-cave, to have that peace in order to move on.

But most importantly, this mental man-cave shouldn't be filled with trash.  It needs to be filled with whatever is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, praiseworthy (Phillippians 4:8), there are the things that should fill whatever man-cave that we are retreating to.  And this is a reminder to myself today.

Wednesday, May 5, 2021

Covid-19... what if...

 Isn't this thing such a nuisance?  I absolutely hate hate hate hate HATE it.  When we want to do things / activities and yet at the back of our mind, we are afraid that we might be infected or be a carrier and infect those who are our close contact.  There are things that we still carry on doing, so that life at least bears some resemblance of normalcy, but to be honest, at the back of my mind, "what if..."  The things that scares me most is, what if it kena Mom / Dad and it was because of me....

10 things I miss due to movement control order (MCO):

1.  Planning and GOING for JJCM trips

2.  Planning and hopefully meeting schoolmates (reunion that was supposed to be in June 2020).

3.  Hiking and makan2 with FREAK, Trienekens Hiking Club (without rasa bersalah).

4.  Church.  Full house.

5.  Freely hugging and kissing my kids.

6.  Cinema

7.  Love Language - touch.  To be able to touch and be close as you talk to others.

8.  Driving up to catch sunset at my fav spot.  Too crowded.

9.  Going out / coming home at any time.

10.  Giving and getting hi-5 from TMT kids first thing in the morning (when I was still in Tadika).


6 things I will miss after MCO (can't think up to 10 things).

1.  No traffic on the road.  At all.

2.  Sleep

3.  Minimal living

4.  Time with my own kids.

5.  Chillin (alone)

6.  Not having to rush going here and there (for tuition, meeting, activities etc)

Wednesday, March 31, 2021

Current Favorites

Because we are currently doing no carb diet (NCD), it's quite hard to find food.  But here are some current favs.  There are others, but I will need to find pictures.  Till then...

Chicken wings from 101 Premier.  There are 2 stalls there.  We do not like "Hans".  We prefer the one named BBQ King.  The laoban is very nice.  Even gave us extra pieces when he feels that his wings are small on that day.  Currently boleh makan hari - hari but segan.

Fried Chicken RM2 from Sumon stall depan Everrise Matang Jaya.  There are many Sumon outlets, but this is the best.  We normally just bring a container and buy like RM40 worth (20 pcs) and eat to our heart's content.  Such a life saver on lazy days.

McD or KFC nuggets are very expensive.  Sometimes, this is one of the easiest things to cook.  But this ain't cheap too.  RM 17.50 for one pack.

Not really an addictive item, but something we will sometimes crave.  Satay Ceko.  The sauce is a bit sweet, but they open (and have satay) at 7am, so that is a real bonus.  RM0.80 /ea for chicken.

This boleh bikin addictive.  Babi at Rumah Asap Tabuan Dayak.  There are many stalls, but we prefer this one.  The last one (I think it's called Tawau or Keningau stall - somewhere in Sabah), coz the guy used to work in Sabah before.  The skin is nicely crunchy.  Not cheap.  The above cost me RM46.  But well... sometimes just crave for it.

And THIS is my current fav.  Friday - went before work.  Ate 1.  Saturday, went after send Noel to badminton, ate 2.  Sunday, went with noel before church, ate 1.5 (shared 3 with Noel).  Monday, skipped because the kopitiam is closed.  Tuesday, busy whole morning, went at 11.15 to try my luck.  They were lelong-ing the popiah.  My luck. Buy 5 Free 1.  So I ate 1 at the shop, 1 in car and another 1 in car an hour later.  Today is Wednesday.  If it wasn't for my laziness to get dressed to go out, I would have gone here again.  Addicted.  This isn't exactly no-carb because (a) skin is made of flour and (b) jimaca and carrot grows under the ground making it not carb-friendly.  But, who cares.  It's just veg.  Mahal also.  One is RM3.80.


Monday, March 22, 2021

Keep going at it!

I dunno how it started, but it did.  And we kept on going.  Week after week after week.  It's been 3 months.  Even when it rained cats and dogs.  Even when we're in #cavemode and don't really wanna deal with another human being (or even each other).  We kept at it.  

And I'm super thankful.  Thankful for the comradeship. Thankful for the pick ups and sending home.  Thankful for the good food before and after.  Thankful for the light chats.  Thankful for the heart to heart sharing.  Thankful for the laughter (kasi ketawa orang most of the time). Thankful for the comfortable silence.  Thankful for the huffing and puffing.  Thankful for the companionship.  Thankful for the friendship.


9 Jan 2021

16 Jan 2021

23 Jan 2021 - 1st time Togs ikut.  And 1st time big group.  And 1st time the 2 guys ever reached Serapi.
Purdey is my schoolmate.  Purdey and Nana are Barb's drinking mates.
Peter is Purdey's brother.  Gabriel is Peter's friend.
#itscomplicated

30 Jan 2021

30 Jan 2021 - hujan lebat.  Togs pakai cermin mata.  Jadi, it "banjir" and made her motion sickness.  So, she couldn't reach the summit.

6 Feb 2021 - rained cats and dogs.  Sampai Serapi had to close their gates.  So we hiked at a nearby "temple" trail.  Twice.  Nuts.  Togs hiked the same trail but separately with her officemates.


13 Feb 2021 - Barb went for family outing to the beach.  So Togs and I went with her officemates.  #sekaliseumurhidupcukuplah

- I missed one day - 21 Feb 2021.  Because we have a close contact scare - 

27 Feb 2021

6 March 2021 - this was the first week we met "Aunty New Balance" - The night before the hike, Togs and I went to look for shoes (for togs).  And "we" fell in love with a pair of new balance shoes yang super mahal.  So she didn't get it.  Sekali see, the next day, there was an aunty who wore the same shoes.  She also used 2 "rukud" that looked so heavy for her.
This was also minggu "nur" - we tried to take photo of sun shining in the midst of pokok2, and yet Barb ended looking like performing the adzan.  Haha.

13 March 2021 - Togs missed this week.  Because her kaki terseliuh after badminton the day before.  Week 2 of meeting Aunty New Balance and her friend.  She said "cukup lah setengah jalan pakei kempis perut". hehe.

20 March 2021



 

Tough

This is a tough journey, I won't lie.  Constant daily struggle.  And I hope I'll never go back.

Simpan di sini buat kenangan. 
Dec 2016 would be around 90++ish.  Dec 2020 would be 68ish.


 

I still read blogs

 I have a bad habit in the office.  I love blog hopping.  I spend hours and hours on blogs.  Yea, I still do read blogs.  But I'm just lazy to write in my own...  I write in my insta, which makes my insta post akin to essay writing!  Bah!


It's March 2021.  Covid-19 came upon us in March 2020.  It's been a year, and this Covid thingy is still here.  And it looks like it's going to stay.


What do I miss most with this Covid situation?  Travelling.  I miss travelling.  I wish I had done more of it, but well, finances doesn't allow it.  But if I could again, I would.  And hopefully I'd be able to do more.  Alone, with Noel, with family, with friends (Jane et al).  Just travel.

Wednesday, August 19, 2020

Some of my fav places to eat in Kuching - part 1

Humans are creatures of habits, aren't we not?  So am I.  I'd return to the same place over and over again.  I don't really like trying new places, in case it's a waste of my calories.  So, here' some places I like to go to eat in Kuching.

Morgan Pork Soup
When I was in Selangor, I "worked" in this a small Christian bookstore.  "worked" because I spend more than I earn, just to get to work!  And one of the luxury I let myself have is KL pork noodle soup.  I love Kuching's kolo mee version of Kueh Tiaw Soup, but some days, I just miss the KL style pork soup.  And I was glad when I saw this here.  It's one of the best rendition of the noodles.

This stall has been serving pork soup since a long time ago, but I've never heard of it till it moved to its current location; Geylang Kopitiam.  Its always very full of patrons that you need to share tables (which I have no problem with).  But with the current covid-19 situation, no worries about overcrowded places.  If you come later, just be prepared to wait.  We like to reach this place by 7.30am and immediately place our orders.  The first serving is at 8am.

Huge CHUNKS of minced pork, thin slices of meat and cubes of pork skin with your choice of noodles - the most popular, being small, slippery, kueh tiaw.  The bone broth comes from hours of boiling; not from MGS.  You can request to add egg, which is nicely done, not too soft; and definitely not hard boiled.  Don't forget to top up generously with cili.

This kopitiam has great kopi peng and teh C peng too.  Very kaw.


IPH Roasted Cafe Kuching

This is our go to place for roasted meat.  We love all the pork roasts - sio bak, char siew as well as the ribs.  The duck is great too.  Roasted chicken?  Same like others I reckon.  Business goes on well into lunch, but some of the popular meat (especially the ribs), will be gone by then.  We being kiasu, like to go at 8.30 / 8.45am to get the best cuts.  Noel likes the noodles here.  It's the closest resemblance to KL's wanton mee (but not quite).  Definitely no green pickled chili.

This is another kopitiam with great Kopi Peng and teh C Peng.

Kenyalang Wet Market Kuching - Tomato Kueh Tiaw

Seems that I like kueh tiaw eh?  I'd think so too :)  I like my tomato k.tiaw like this.  Not too thick.  Not too sour.  Mild, with sweet and sour taste.  My must have?  Slices of Char Siew.  And with Chili and vinegar poured on top.  There are only 3 places in Kuching that I know of that sales like this - Hui Sing Hawker Center (only opens at night), Bintawa market (too far to go) and Kenyalang Market.

Hui Sing is where the stalls that I grew up with serves now, so that's a given why it's my favorite.  I used to work in Bintawa area, so that's how I know the one in Bintawa and Kenyalang - because I go for my fortnightly wet marketing there (as an adult).  I am usually very early, so after getting all my supplies, I will go up to the next floor for self reward.  The place used to be jam-packed with the early risers (read:  Ah Kong and Ah Ma).  But with the social distancing regulation, some tables has been blocked.

Go to stall No. 37 Hap Hap Hin for Tomato K.Tiaw / Cripsy Noodles.

Go to stall No. 17 Ngiap Kiang for Fried Noodles - please order Mee & K.Tiaw campur, masin, pedas.  Be ready to wait.  He prepares and fries his noodles religiously.

There's another stall with good porridge and good coffee - I'll update the numbers / name when I go there next.  There's other things to eat too - cucur pisang (my fav overriped pisang tanduk), yu cha kueh, a huge variety of kuehs etc).

I come here at 5ish in the morning.  They are opened from 4am till lunch.

Ah... last but not least on today's post... 

Wood Lam Cafe (old immigration) 

This is another place we grew up with.  There used to be a laksa stall that serves, to me, the best laksa in town during that time.  But one of the daughters got into trouble with loan sharks and they had to close up.  A sad day for many of us.

The kueh chap here is good, mild in taste, with a kick of sambal.  Pre-MCO, we had to wait HOURS (well, about 30 - 45 mins), for this bowl of goodness.  But now, it doesn't take as long.  But don't expect to have this "early".  He usually drives in at 7.15 and sets up, maybe ready to serve at 7.30, though his signage says 7am.  He is very particular with his cuts and do not cut ahead of time, and he does it meticulously.  So yes, the wait is painful, with a sweet ending once you put it in your mouth.

But thank God, whilst waiting, you can curb your hunger with this!  This is THE BEST cha kueh tiaw in my books.  Smallish cubes, with crunchy sides.  The usual radish cakes outside are usually huge cubes, all soggy, but these although it looks too "broken" are absolutely delish.  There are surprising bites of tang chai, lots of eggs and tonnes of crunchy ends.  I have no patients to pick it bit by bit, so I usually just use whatever spoon I have on hand to gobble it up.

The uncle who serves this now has knee pain from the long hours of standing.  Now he sits on a high stool to fry these beautiful golden morsel.

We usually get here by 7am, the cha kueh would be ready to serve by 6.30am.  Serves decent coffee.  Kopi-O peng is nice too.  Not too kaw, not too pok (thin).

As you can see, these food I've mentioned are the food / taste that I grew up with.  Some will need me to wait (for up to an hour), but still, once the craving is there, there's not turning back.  I normally will just endure the wait with a happy smile on my face :)

Till my next entry of fav food in Kuching!