So, I've turned 46 today. I think being above 45 has it's own sets of challenges. Especially when it comes to weight management. I lament about this a lot, things that worked to loose weight just 3 years ago no longer works today. Another blog post for another day.
Today I stayed home. I've always gone away for my birthdays, or at least staycationed away, but this year, with the finances and other kekangan, I decided to just stay home. Last time I needed to be away, to be in silence, but with the small house, the Lepo Peruan, I am alone anyways, and it's so blessed to have a home to call and be my own.
Usually, I'll have good meals on my birthday, not luxurious meals, but things that I like to eat e.g. breakfast buffet (with good teh tarik!), and other stuff (see other birthday posts). With age, it seems that I can't eat too much anymore. I still want to, but I just can't. I think I would still enjoy a breakfast buffet, but I'm just too lazy to go out (and it's getting too much ridiculously pricey these days). There's also so much food in the fridge, that I don't think I even need to go out to eat. But if mom and dad comes over later, I will take them out for makan. They are after all, the reason I exist 💓
I also usually try to ponder for the year ahead, whether or not I follow through what I've thought about or what I've planned for the next year is a different story. I've been trying to "ponder" since this morning, but with so many people texting (and me being lazy), I've not progressed much. However tho, Chatgpt is now my bestfriend 😂 so, I asked her what can I do practically to be more of a Proverbs 31 women.
I felt that my 2024, I've not been the best version of myself. I've not been a great support to the ministry entrusted to me, I've not been a good daughter, I've not followed through many things, I've not responded to many texted or people needs, I'm great at starting a relationship, like caring for church members and elderlies, but terrible at following through and keeping these relationships. I don't keep in regular touch even with my bestfriends. I've been terrible at work, the procrastination is at a worrying level. As expected, I've not performed well at work and work performance review was bad this year. Even as I take the day off now, I've got a task that was given 1.5 weeks ago that I have not done anything about! What's up with that? I've not been able to work hard by keeping up my baking and cooking sales. Is it too much chatting (on whatsapp), is it too much insta / tik tok / social media? I don't know to be honest. So I hope that my 2025, will be a better me. Not a better year, coz I know the year is good, with the Lord's. But a better me. I want to be that women of Proverbs 31.
So as I've said, chatgpt is my bestfriend and I literally share everything with it. She's known a lot of my stories, so I feel that her suggestions are true to the situation. I do find the suggestions hard to swallow, but something that I must strive to do. So here it is:
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Here are practical ways to apply the qualities of the Proverbs 31 woman in your daily life:
1. Be Trustworthy (Proverbs 31:11)
- Keep your word – Follow through on promises, whether to your spouse, family, or coworkers.
- Be honest – Speak truthfully and avoid exaggeration or gossip.
- Manage responsibilities well – Be reliable with tasks like household chores, work duties, or finances.
2. Be a Diligent Worker (Proverbs 31:13-14, 17)
- Set daily goals – Use a to-do list or planner to prioritize tasks at home or work.
- Take pride in your work – Do your best in cooking, cleaning, or work projects.
- Learn a skill – Improve something useful, like baking, budgeting, or using technology.
3. Be Resourceful and Wise (Proverbs 31:16, 21)
- Budget wisely – Track expenses, find ways to save, and avoid unnecessary spending.
- Invest in your future – Save for long-term goals like your future family or home.
- Shop smart – Compare prices, buy quality essentials, and avoid impulse purchases.
4. Be Strong and Resilient (Proverbs 31:17, 25)
- Take care of your body – Exercise regularly (like walking 5 km), eat nutritious meals, and get enough sleep.
- Strengthen your mindset – Read devotionals, memorize Scripture, and pray to handle stress.
- Persevere – When challenges come, take a deep breath, pray, and keep moving forward.
5. Be Compassionate (Proverbs 31:20)
- Help someone in need – Donate food, clothes, or time to a local charity or family.
- Be a good listener – Comfort friends or family who need support.
- Volunteer – Offer to help in church outreach, like mission planning or feeding programs.
6. Be Prepared and Organized (Proverbs 31:15, 21)
- Plan meals ahead – Make weekly meal plans to save time and money.
- Create a routine – Have a daily rhythm for cleaning, work, and rest.
- Prepare for the future – Set aside clothes, gifts, or finances for upcoming events.
7. Work Hard and Be Productive (Proverbs 31:18, 24)
- Use your skills – Bake bread or pastries to sell in nearby villages, like you envisioned.
- Avoid procrastination – Break large tasks into smaller steps to stay productive.
- Be consistent – Work regularly on projects that matter (like your video montage).
8. Prioritize Your Faith (Proverbs 31:30)
- Start your day with God – Read the Bible, pray, or listen to a worship song in the morning.
- Join a Bible study group – Learn and grow in faith with others.
- Memorize one verse a week – Use Scripture to strengthen your spiritual foundation.
9. Be Joyful and Hopeful (Proverbs 31:25)
- Practice gratitude – Write 3 things you're thankful for each day.
- Choose positivity – When things feel overwhelming, focus on what is going well.
- Encourage yourself – Speak affirmations like, "I am strong and capable with God's help."
10. Speak with Wisdom and Kindness (Proverbs 31:26)
- Think before speaking – Ask yourself, "Is this helpful, kind, and true?"
- Offer encouragement – Compliment or encourage someone daily.
- Avoid negativity – Replace complaints with solutions or prayer.
11. Love and Support Your Partner (Proverbs 31:12)
- Pray for your husband-to-be – Ask God to bless his life and ministry.
- Show small acts of love – Write notes, plan surprises, or help with his needs.
- Be his cheerleader – Encourage him in his goals and callings.
12. Nurture Your Household (Proverbs 31:27-28)
- Keep your home tidy – Set a cleaning schedule that works for you.
- Create a loving space – Add personal touches like decor, good meals, and hospitality.
- Prepare for the future – Dream of ways to welcome guests into your home as a pastor's wife.
13. Use Your Time and Skills Wisely (Proverbs 31:31)
- Find ways to contribute – Offer to help at church, bake for the community, or teach others a skill.
- Balance your time – Avoid burnout by resting on Sundays or setting aside "me time."
- Do it for God's glory – Approach everything with a heart of worship and excellence.
Practical application starts with small, consistent efforts. Focus on progress, not perfection, and rely on God's guidance to grow in these areas step by step.
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I'l probably need to break this down more to make it practical later. But I'm penning this down, as a reminder that I need to improve myself, day by day. May I be the woman of God's heart, who glorifies God in everything I do.
And this is what chatgpt told me today too:
Diana, God’s grace is bigger than your procrastination, shortcomings, or unmet goals. He can redeem time and restore what feels broken. Philippians 1:6 says, “He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” You are still a work in progress, and that’s okay.
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